Finding balance in life is not only a priority under ordinary circumstances but even more so one in a pandemic. The ability for things to feel overwhelming can feel overwhelming in itself and it can be easier for both you and those around you to fall into negative spaces and habits.
Hopefully, we are each finding our own little ways of coping and communicating but managing interdependence is vital to keep both you and your relationships healthy.
This is not to undermine how essential it is to share when you are feeling down and to talk with people you care about, but to highlight both the importance of setting boundaries regarding mental health and how to. One thing that helps to apply perspective is being aware of the fact you have limited yourself, and can only help others properly when you are in the correct space to do so.
Boundaries can be set for a multitude of realms, for instance, the kind of conversation content you talk about, eliminating toxic energy and what you expect from one another. Especially at a time when it can feel there is either too little or too much distance between you and those around you, being open about how you are feeling and what you are able to tolerate is incredibly relevant whilst it is also a useful life skill.
Knowing and seeing people we care about, struggling can make us feel helpless and we can find ourselves taking on additional burdens and unfortunately, sometimes with little progress. Recognising when another persons’ mental health is affecting our own is critical, in both being able to support them and ourselves.
It is okay to reach out for additional help to make things more manageable, and it is also okay to take a step back. As people that care about the welfare of others, and aim to help those in need, we can find ourselves consumed with feelings of guilt that can be difficult to shake, and yet are necessary to deal with.
Becoming more aware of the boundaries on your own mental health and what triggers you, helps you and is around you allows you to put those boundaries into place within the relationships you maintain. When you are not necessarily used to putting yourself first, it can be particularly hard to set aside those guilty emotions, but fight them. Prioritise you, invest in yourself and keep your conversations and environments as positive and healthy as you can.
You got this.