Saying no. Something that has been coming in and out of everyday social media for years now. It is okay to say no.
I'm pretty sure we can all remember when every social media platform went wild about consent (rightfully so) and how you have to listen when someone says no.
I think it’s worth saying that this doesn’t just stand for really big things like sexual experiences. Don’t get me wrong, this is so important, but it is okay to say no to anything.
A party you don’t want to go to? Say no. I can understand (and agree) how it’s so hard to turn around to a friend or family member and say “No, I don’t want to go to the party“. However, you are more than in your rights to do so.
I can promise you that nobody is going to make fun of you, or think you’re a loser for not going to the party. They will not care (in a nice way).
There’s been more than a handful of times that I have had to take part in something or go to an event when I really don’t want to be there. I’m moody and anxious and all I want is a hot chocolate and a good film, all because I didn’t say no.
You do not have to please everyone you come across
We’re learning more and more everyday that everybody is their own person. We set our own boundaries. We live our own lives and what I do should not bother you. It is still extremely hard to not want to make everyone happy.
Everyone wants to be the person to make people laugh, to put a smile on others faces. But if you are not in the position to do so, if you are not in the right mindset to do so, it is okay to say no.
This is probably one of the healthiest things I did with my life and I’m much happier. I learnt to say no.