When we think of a toxic relationship, we often think of a romantic or family relationships. However, friendships can also be affected by toxicity.
It is estimated that in the USA that 84% of women and 75% of men have been in a toxic friendship at one part of their life.
It's so easy to fall into the trap of a toxic friendship. And staying in this friendship can drain you and negatively affect your mental health.
There are many warning signs, but here are 5 common signs:
You feel tired and emotionally drained after you see them.
They hate or are jealous of your successes.
They treat you poorly.
They don't support you with your problems.
They aren't willing to ever compromise with you.
So what can you do?
When you are in a toxic friendship you may feel trapped and unable to escape their influence. You also may feel dependent on them. Before you try to leave it's worth ensuring you have a support network around you, a friend or family member who can support you through the process.
Once you are ready to leave you can:
Acknowledge the problem, and prepare what you want to say.
Keep your distance from them.
Be direct when you explain why you want to end the friendship.
Cut all communication with them. Make sure they can't contact you on social media.
It will be hard to gather the confidence to leave a toxic friendship, and harder with the aftermath. You may miss them or miss who they used to be. You may feel lonely. It's important you have a support network of positive people to help you get through it.
No one deserves to be in a toxic relationship. No matter if it's romantic, family or friendship. Put yourself first and you'll see the benefit. The benefits to your day-to-day life and your mood and mental health.