Toxic Friendships

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When we think of a toxic relationship, we often think of a romantic or family relationships. However, friendships can also be affected by toxicity.

It is estimated that in the USA that 84% of women and 75% of men have been in a toxic friendship at one part of their life.

It's so easy to fall into the trap of a toxic friendship. And staying in this friendship can drain you and negatively affect your mental health.

There are many warning signs, but here are 5 common signs:

  • You feel tired and emotionally drained after you see them.

  • They hate or are jealous of your successes.

  • They treat you poorly.

  • They don't support you with your problems.

  • They aren't willing to ever compromise with you.

So what can you do?

When you are in a toxic friendship you may feel trapped and unable to escape their influence. You also may feel dependent on them. Before you try to leave it's worth ensuring you have a support network around you, a friend or family member who can support you through the process.

Once you are ready to leave you can:

  • Acknowledge the problem, and prepare what you want to say.

  • Keep your distance from them.

  • Be direct when you explain why you want to end the friendship.

  • Cut all communication with them. Make sure they can't contact you on social media.

It will be hard to gather the confidence to leave a toxic friendship, and harder with the aftermath. You may miss them or miss who they used to be. You may feel lonely. It's important you have a support network of positive people to help you get through it.

No one deserves to be in a toxic relationship. No matter if it's romantic, family or friendship. Put yourself first and you'll see the benefit. The benefits to your day-to-day life and your mood and mental health.